What would you change about your wedding?

A friend asked me what I would change about my wedding day. That was a very interesting question. It is not something I think about much since it really doesn't matter at this point, but after thought here is what I came up with.

1. First of all our actual wedding was performed in an LDS Temple and it was beautiful, complete and pure. I wouldn’t change a thing. Everyone was dressed in white and there were mirrors on two sides of the walls that if you looked into you could see yourself an infinite amount of times. This symbolized how our marriage is forever, but also that through our children and their children and their children our bond goes on and on and there is no end. Beautiful. I wouldn’t change a thing.

2. The reception is what I would change. This was held in a church. I wasn’t firm in what I wanted by way of decorations and that sort of thing so when other people pushed what they wanted, I wasn’t strong enough in my resolve to stand up for what I really wanted. For instance a lady (my sister-in-law’s mother) ended up being our decorator and she didn’t decorate in the style I likes and I thought it quite tacky. Furthermore, I wanted it elegant and simple and for there to be two colors, forest green and pale yellow. She said you can’t just have two colors and needed one more for visual interest. Well, that third color was violet. I DO NOT LIKE VIOLET. The reason it was this is because my mother-in-law had a violet dress she wanted to wear in the line and I didn’t have what it takes to say no.

3. I also wouldn't have fought with my dad about the price. If you can believe it he wanted to spend more, but I thought it frivolous. I'm his only daughter and can now appreciate that he wanted to do it as a gift and I shouldn't have made it hard for him.

4. I also would have cherished my dance with my dad a little more. We are very close, but we are not a touchy family so it was weird for me to dance with him. I realize now how hard it must have been to say good-bye to his daughter and our relationship as we knew it.

5. Also I didn’t want a long reception line. I wanted just me and my hubby, and our parents. Well, somehow his bother, the best man, ended up in the line and so we had to rush to get my best friend, the maid of honor, a dress to wear – that very day! I think I didn’t communicate well enough or something. I have gotten much better at speaking up and voicing what I need and want. I also didn’t do a good job of delegating and communicating who should do what, but everything went okay and fine enough.

I know these are very minor things. Most everything else was great. My dear friends went into our hotel room before we did and made it so romantic. There was music playing, candles glowing, rose petals tossed around and bubbles for a bubble bath. There were snacks and treats and so many other things I would have never have thought we needed. It was so much fun. I know this is more than you wanted to know, but we had both saved ourselves for each other. So for both of us it was a first that we shared and will always hold dear.

So what would you change about your wedding day?