Yesterday I took 6yo to get school clothes. It is our first year of all day school and also the first year I let 6yo help pick his school clothes. We have a bit of differnt tastes, but I let him go with his fasion style. I like more of the clean preppy look. He likes the sports shirts and such. I let him choose and he did quite well. He cried quite a bit when today I wouldn't let him wear them to play in, but my mother didn't let me and, though I cried too, I stuck to my guns.
I told my parents today that I'm expecting. Mom reacted the way I had suspected. No congratulations but said, "I hope you're done after this.". My dad, however, gave me congratulations and made me feel good. I have to admit that I kind of wish that I hadn't told her. If she is going to be down on me then I don't want her help. She tends to be a bit controlling and I'm just now starting to resent it all. Anyway, they want to come visit and I have mixed feelings. I don't need a lecture and it is not her place to tell me what to do with my kids. She will tell me I'm doing a great job and then the next minute seem really negative. She didn't used to be like this. I don't know and I'm too tired for philosophy right now, but I'm happy to announce that I've been feeling quite well and I attribute it to taking it easy, B6, digestive enzymes and my hubby cooking. (DH went shopping yesterday and came back with meal plans for the next few days. Yesterday we had stroganoff and broccoli, today we had ham, Potato Casserole, and salad and for desert we had blackberry pie from our blackberry bush and ice cream. Tomorrow we will have grilled hamburgers - at my request. Tuesday is leftovers for the family and I'm going to a church Summer Social.)
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I know I don't know you, but I think it's beautiful that you are welcoming this sweet spirit into your family. Regardless of how stretched you feel, it's obvious that you care deeply about doing this mothering thing right. Heavenly Father knows this and will bless you for your diligence and faith.
Thank You! I needed to hear that right now.
I hear you about mother's not being supportive. That is my entire life right now. And my mom (who raised one child) is always trying to give me advice on how to run my household of 8!
I have found a lot of support online from my large family groups. They won't let you join mine till after the birth of your 5th baby, but I'm sure you can find your support somewhere. There are plenty of us who think that children are a huge blessing and a gift. And I know plenty of mamas who think that 4 kids is just a "good start" to a family. You will know what is best for your body. And it sounds like you and your hubby are really working to make this adjustment to a new baby work for you.
Congratulations on your new baby...it's a good thing!
I know what you are saying, Noelle. That is exactly what I will have to do - find support from someone other than my mom. It is just too bad. :( She is really supportive if I do things just the way she wants me to.
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