This year for some reason I expected to be treated like a queen for a day on Mother’s Day – even from my kids. You know what I mean, not just a nice day of respect, but I wanted royal special treatment. I wanted perfection. I’m not usually like that and, of coarse, I was disappointed and grumpy.
I watched my husband this Father’s Day. He was happy. He let me pamper him, but he didn't mind if things weren't perfect. He didn’t sit around and wait for to be fanned off and grapes plopped in his mouth. He played with the kids and took time to clean-up too.
I asked myself, “Why is it that this year I totally wanted things to go just so and couldn’t relax?” After reflection, I think it is because on normal days I forget myself and get so depleted that I was looking for my family to fill that void on that particular day. I have not been taking care of my needs and my bucket is empty. (You’ve heard you have to fill up your bucket first before you can give to others, right?) My husband takes time for himself everyday, not a lot, but some. I need to do this too. I need to nurture myself so that I don’t depend on my dear family to do this task.
The reason I changed to just taking care of my family is because I know a woman who acts as though that is all you need to do in life. That may fill her bucket, but different personalities have different needs. I need social, creativity, intellectual learning opportunities and fun. So that is what I’m going to do.
1. I’m working on my body being healthier.
2. I wrote down a list of things that bring me joy.
3. I will plan on times that I can do the things that bring me joy.
4. I will in turn be a great mom that is not needy and expecting her family to fill her bucket. This way I can fill theirs because mine is full.
Make sense? I don’t have time to reread this to see if it does so there are my thoughts tonight.
3 comments:
I think that is so true!!
In turn we'll treat our children better and when there is a time that you cannot do anything for yourself for a short time your bucket will be full enough:)
I think its important to be able to let go and let people serve us...in their own way. Which is hard for control freaks and perfectionistas like me! Enjoyed your post!
I do have a hard time letting others help me. I usually have to be on my death bed before I ask for a favor. We are all here to serve each other and be the hands of God right?
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